So we ministered in a Campus fellowship on Biblical pattern of marriage and someone asked why is it that most Christian brothers don’t come proposing marriage with a *dazzling ring* like we see in Nollyhood. And I recall, Abraham servant too presented Rebekah with ring and jewelries. #smiling.
My brothers in Christ, how market sir, I hail you o. Lol.
To that question, I first had a very good laugh before answering.
Of course, it baffled me too as a single. When my husband proposed marriage to me, he didn’t come with a dazzling ring neither did he kneel before me. That man ehn. Winks.
Well The reason is very obvious, if you haven’t been dating (boyfriend and girlfriend) for a couple of years before actual marriage proposal, you can’t just go buying a ring to propose when you’re not so sure the lady would accept you. Of course, she needs time to pray and watch before making a decision.
That was how one friend of mine, who has dated her boyfriend for close to 5years and did all the #Doable suddenly came flashing us her ring, “He has proposed marriage to me”
Bad me, I didn’t even know why we were all admiring the ring self. Biko, if the guy no propose marriage na wetin he want after 5years. #Hian
It is only in dating relationship such is common, in most cases the lady is even eager to take the relationship to the next_level as the guy flaunt the ring, she goes grinning from ear to ear, blushing and screaming for joy in fact some ladies faint at the sight. Lol.
Ok, for my wonderful christian brothers, I have a piece of advice for you on this matter.
One, before you propose marriage, of course I expect you would have been friends with the sister for a reasonable time, just compose your epistles properly; simply share your life vision and what you feel for her. Shikena. To kneel down/ prostrate is your choice. #MyHandNoDey
So after you’ve proposed and she has accepted, you can give her an engagement ring, depending on how long your courtship is likely to run (you sure need to be clear on this), if not she will become Lord_Of_The_Ring in fact, the ring would have washed off before wedding bells, if it’s not a real gold. How many of you can buy a real gold to propose marriage self. Lol
I don’t advise you to buy ring before proposal, remember she has the decision to make whether to accept or reject your proposal, so don’t intimidate her with a dazzling ring. Let it be clear she is saying yes to YOU and not ENGAGEMENT RING. Hmm I hail some of these sisters o. Lol
That was how I saw in a movie, after the brother finished delivering the epistles he called marriage proposal, this ring-hungry sister said, “Where is the ring?” Rodfl
After the #CORRECT sister has accepted, bros, why not get her a Cake and write “Thank You For saying YES” on it. Yeah. You can add flavor and spice after acceptance if you’re not doing ring. You could buy her a gift, you know.
On engagement ring, some sisters love to wear engagement ring to show that “I am TAKEN”
My pity for them is that if the courtship doesn’t end in marriage, their engagement ring would have helped chased other potential suitors away. Secondly, if the courtship turns longer than expected, you will have to save your face from people you flaunted your ring at.
If you must give your fiancee an engagement ring, please buy a good one. Don’t buy the one that will turn her finger black and if she’s the choosy type, take her along so she can pick her choice. I read a lady’s comment on the internet. saying “I hate my engagement ring”
Honestly I concur, women can be so complicated o. Lol
*In a nutshell marriage must be in view before you start wearing an engagement ring. Copy that!*
With or Without engagement ring, courtship relationship is a relationship with MARRIAGE COMMITMENT, I believe what is most important is your COMMITMENT to your promise.
OK, after I accepted Mayowa’s marriage proposal, he didn’t buy me an engagement ring. This man ehn. Why won’t I expect an engagement ring? #Sho_mo_age_mi_ni 🤣😂🤣😂
RODFL
So I used wisdom cos I was too shy and classy to be asking him to buy me an engagement ring. I went to Oshodi market. You are still reading? You like gist faaa. Lol.
I bought myself a very beautiful engagement ring. RODFL
So I carried myself to his house in a public transport, (Danfo) bus to be precise with the bus conductor hanging by the door. I alighted at Ogba and trekked down to Mayowa’s mini flat apartment.
There I go, I stretched out my left finger, flashing him the ring on my fourth finger. He laughs and covered his face with his palm. So he got the message.
Then finally, I stretched out my right hand and said, “GIVE ME MY MONEY” #RODFL
The first time I posted this on Facebook, many people asked me if Pastor Mayowa refunded my money. YES! He hasn’t finished paying me o, been paying for 6years. Lol
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Esther Ebunoluwa Omoniyi
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