Permit me to flashback a little bit.
Towards the end of our wedding reception, I started to have this feeling like errrm (God how do I describe this) 😃 ehn ehn post-wedding blues.
I suddenly felt emotionally down at the thought of my mom and siblings returning home, that place which is everything to me; Family! Love! Bond!”
I couldn’t bear the nagging thought of leaving my mom and siblings (mom especially) It was at this point I started wishing mom had remarried after my dad’s death. 😔
To hide my nagging pain, I wouldn’t even hug my mom or cling to my siblings to say goodbye after reception. My emotions just somersaulting ba kan laikdat 😆 😅 🙃
My hubby has helped me define this problem in my life; He called it escapism mode
(In helpless situations, I am always acting strong when on the inside I am blowing with love, instead suppress, push off or ignore what I feel on the inside)
If only mom and siblings could see through my heart, I wanted to be with them on my wedding night instead of going to my new home😆 🤣 😂
I remember hurrying hubby up so we could leave the reception for our home. This action even made me admit it is escapism mode. 😆 🤣 😂
So I left the reception like a strong bride who has fully prepared for the life ahead and set to build her new home. 😆 🤣 😂
On our way home, hubby was acting touchy and mushy mushy but somehow my emotions were on roller coaster. 😆 🤣 😂
I even started to get cranky but managed it well. He thought I was just physically exhausted. Unfortunately I didn’t talk about my inner struggles. It was awkward jare.
Upon getting to our home, we prayed and the tension reduced to like 50-degree.
Guess what I did next? 😆 🤣 😂
I started to arrange my belongings on our wedding night o 😆 🤣 😂
My hubby was just speechless 😆 🤣
The gentle soul who was ready for “ACTION TIME” 😆 🤣 😂
I was seriously taking my time to boot as a fresh wife from the oven plus this man just carried me away from the family I had spent over three decades with. I kept on arranging all my stuffs left in the sitting room. 😆 🤣 😂
By the time I was done arranging EVERYTHING (you heard me right) 😆 🤣 😂
It took like an hour or more. That relaxed me a bit.
Yeap, cleaning and arranging my things is kind of therapeutic for me. #coversface
Thank God hubby didn’t stop me.
Then I faced my delicious Person 😋 😆 🤣
I asked him to help unzip my wedding dress (yes..I was arranging the house still inside my wedding dress) 😆 🤣 😂
I have fully opened my ass today.
Hubby jumped at the task o 😆 🤣 he unzipped my gown…seeing me in full glare for the first time in 500D 😆 🤣 😂
Good memories 😋 😋 😋 😋 😋 😆 🤣 😂
We were good 👍.
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So, two Weeks later, I just stood up and told hubby “…I am going back to our house…” 😆 🤣 😂
I have endured all my silent thoughts and inner lamentations about my mom going through the blues of not having me around. 😆 🤣 😂
I couldn’t bear it any more. I needed to see her urgently, hug her,peck her and even sleep on her bed. 😆 🤣 😂
My hubby was shocked when I said “I am going back to our house” 😆 🤣 😂
I added “…I’d like to spend like a night or two with my mom please…allow me go please” 😢 😭 😢 😭
I started to beg him. 😢 😭
I was so close to tears. Abi I cried?
I can’t remember what happened to me. 😆 🤣 😂
It’s so funny now.
Hubby took it calmly. He hugged me and started to remind me that all my life I have been with my family and it is time to build HOME with him too. He told me it is too early to be going to have night out with my mom but he promised to take me home soonest.
Chai I was a baby #coverface
I am now grown. I have done without seeing my mom for Months and not even calling her regularly 😆 🤣
Post wedding blues happens to some new brides even grooms o.
This feeling of melancholy after wedding celebration; the sinking-in of the feeling that the wedding is over, you have to leave your family and marriage has begun.
In counseling newly wedded couples, I and my husband have realised that it is a very serious issue in some new homes. Thank God we managed ours well. We have had to intervene for some newly wedded couples 😃
I will share some wisdom that works with you in the next post.
To be continued…
Esther Ebunoluwa Omoniyi
omoniyiesther1@gmail.com
