Before I met my wife, there were two interesting remarkable events that happened to me that in hindsight now I can say indeed God rules in the affairs of men.
Now I will crave the indulgence of the people involved to share the story for the purpose of learning because they are good friends to me.
I was in a courtship relationship with an amazing lady that I will call Mary. I loved her so much that even one of my fav female friends opined after everything happened that I loved her too much.
I didn’t agree with her of course, I am someone that believes in giving my all into anyone that I have chosen to be my partner for life.
But when I looked back now on the relationship, Mary had issues with my calling, she had expressed ‘fear’ about the most important thing in my life. However then, I completely ignored her fears, I believed our love would overcome all that.
Lesson: Love that doesn’t deal with the reality of the very important things in your lives isn’t real enough to stand the test of future storms.
If there is an iota of fear or uncertainty, it is wise to deal with it before you plunge into marriage.
You know the man is a flirt and have serious anger issues, if you ignore the signs now, you will reap your harvest in marriage.
You know the journey of the man/woman isn’t your journey and you just tagged along because you ‘love’ him/her. You will wake up to the reality of strenuous journey or aborted visions in marriage.
When making marital choice, choose the future.
When I look back now, I thank God for how he summarised that relationship.
I wouldn’t be doing what I am doing now because the demands of my calling needs some mega sacrifice that even I was hesitating to make.
God in His wisdom, packaged everything I need in Esther and when it was time, she naturally stepped into it. The journey has been sweet together.
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@ohteehem
Very educative