Faith was jilted by her boyfriend of four years, a day before the introduction ceremony of both families.
She was hurt and embarrased, she cried all night…her ‘best friend’ Femi was with her that night. He consoled her and cared for her.
Two weeks later, Faith was already getting over the hurt, or so she thought, she found solace in the arms of Femi. Before long they started having sex.
Fast forward to two months later, they started fighting seriously and Femi chased her out of his house.
John was one of the most hardworking staff in the company and he was on a smooth flight to become one of the senior managers in the company.
One day, one of his supervisor gave him an unfair query that will stall his career growth for another two years. He was so hurt that he promised to deal with the supervisor.
He was so focused on the hurt and ways to revenge that soon he became sloppy in his duties, his performance quality dropped and when his colleagues noted this, he became more angry and pointed out that they were all working for the supervisor against him.
Fast forward to a month later, management noticed his poor performance demoted him instead of improving he became hurt the more. He confronted his supervisor, hurled insults at him and the Managing director heard about it and sacked John.
We can paint so many scenarios of people that allowed hurt and anger to destroy their relationship, career and life. I know someone that a one night stand has marred her life forever.
I have seen great friendships destroyed just because of words of anger spoken to hurt the other person. Many have taken up careers or entered into relationships just to prove to the other person.
All these all boils downs to the fact that we all allow the past because we are hurt to immobilize us.
The right reaction to hurt is first to admit that an unpleasant situation has happened and you will need to deal with patience and wisdom.
There is no point denying it. People that leave in denial of a problem always crash land their lives…it is better to accept it and fashion out ways to deal with it.
Also recognize that if someone hurt you, it is their problem not yours, if you make silly decisions, you will end up hurting yourself the more. Be calm and give yourself time to heal. Dont make stupid decisions that will even give pleasure to the person that hurt you. Anyone that hurts you wants to see you sad and depressed, dont give them that pleasure, be calm and handle it with wisdom.
I will agree that it is not easy to be calm when you are hurt but nothing is easy in life, you just have to make the right decisions that will give you the needed result.
Let the PAST pass dont allow it to prevent you from entering into the desired and deserved future God has prepared for you.
Job’s friends instead of bringing him comfort, pointed accusing fingers at him. Job was hurt but God didn’t act until he forgave and prayed for them.
“And the Lord turned the captivity of Job, WHEN HE PRAYED FOR HIS FRIENDS: ALSO THE LORD GAVE JOB TWICE AS MUCH AS HE HAD BEFORE” Job 42:10
Your most important reaction to hurt is to let go and forgive the other person. Anyone who harbors unforgiveness in his heart will never see the favor of God.
God says if you come to the altar with gifts and you have something against your brother, go and settle it first. God doesn’t accept the sacrifice of people that lives in unforgiveness.
Do not allow someone’s action to hinder you from God favor. Forgive yourself, the other person and move on with your life.
It shall be well with you.
Shalom!
