There are times that you may be close to someone because you have a common enemy don’t ever assume that you are now intimate friends. You are not…it is just a relationship that will last as long as you have a common enemy.
Also, when you come together with people to do something together, it is an opportunity to know them but it is not a validation of their person or character. Let time prove them to be who they claim to be.
Don’t you trust me? Is a manipulative question…trust is a product of proving yourself to be trustworthy over a period of time in different situations of life.
It is also like “falling in love” …it is foolishness to ‘fall in love’ when you haven’t had time to prove the person or you ‘fall in love’ based on the recommendation of another person…if it is real love, it will not be scared of probing…true love is tested in the waters and the fire.
There are standards that grow intimacy, it must not be disregarded because of anything…that is the safety you have against wolf pretending as a sheep.
If you throw caution to the air because of a project, or common enemy or unproven character…you will find yourself to blame. Check things, don’t be naive.
A con man got intimate with a good Christian lady, he did everything she did, spoke in tongues and had his language changed to Christianese…just because he got to know she was a virgin and was ready to do anything to be her first. She fell for it and years later, the beast in him revealed itself after he got what he wanted.
A seemingly great ministry material, he thought she was…with her singing and giving of prophecies in meetings. He thought she was the perfect lady that will move his ministry forward…they got married after a rather short period of knowing one another.
“Why the wait when she already has what He wanted in a woman?” He said. Fast forward to weeks into the marriage, he got to know he had married a wild lustful and insatiable worldly lady.
There are standards…there are checks that you should do…before venturing on intimate relationships(business, marriage etc) with people…it is not being paranoid, it is being diligent.
Even when someone comes with a recommendation from someone that you trust, please note that you must do your personal checks, the reason you trusted the person that gave the recommendation is that the person has a history of being trustworthy and it is subjective from persons to persons.
There are compromises that we make for people because of this history but our reason for making those comprises, differ from persons to persons, it is not universal.
A wise person uses time has his or friend…never be in a rush to make any serious life decision. If it must be made in a hurry, it is probably because someone is trying to cover something up.
_*OTM writes…you don’t have to accept this but I hope it makes you think and make wise decisions.*_
