…In 2019, we were in Benin for our mission work in schools and we visited our host Bishop Wale Ajayi’s house. Just by the door side I saw an inscription that talks about deliberately making good memories in the home. It has stayed with me since then.
As we were rounding up the conference in Benin, I just told our team members to gather that I wanted to do something 😂😂😂
I told my wife to come, I just carried her the way I did on our wedding day…and she was still screaming and resisting…I told her that after this long stretching work…we will be spending some time outside the country to rest and relax…everyone screamed…she was too shocked to understand.😂😂😂😂
I appreciated her labours and her sacrifices and promised to be a great husband always.
I now narrated to her, how I planned the whole thing with someone, I got her passport, paid for the tickets, book hotel…while i was saving the receipts to ensure she doesn’t see it…etc It was an emotional time for her and she shed some tears of joy.
You must note that it wasn’t about the trip outside the country, it was about thoughtfulness and a commitment to making your partner happy.
There are people that can throw money around and buy the best things in the world but there is no thoughtfulness around it…there is no deliberate decision to creating memories.
Couples must be deliberate about making good memories. Many couples only have memories of the bad things that their spouse did to them..the bad words spoken…how they were treated badly by their spouse… emotionally abused and maybe physically abused as well.
It has cumulatively created memories of bitterness and they carry this through years of marriages. No wonder many marriages are broken before they finally break.
From words used, to your attitude and actions; you must weigh it. Will it bring a good memory when the fellow remember it in two years, ten, twenty years time…?
Some people say “when I am angry, I say everything that I want to say and it has ended” …hey child of God, the words that you speak in those moments of anger…what memories are you leaving behind? You are spirit controlled not temperamental…
Forgiveness is easy to ask for but the other person doesn’t have a delete button in their brain…they will still remember.
I counselled some couples years ago and I told them that for the years that you have created not so good memories in your marriage, you must now be deliberate in creating good memories to overshadow the bad times.
It doesn’t have to be a major thing, it just have to be thoughtful. How about just a night out…how about a card to express your love…how about a movie night in your house…how about a gist evening…
I want you to remember that the devil doesn’t want your marriage to succeed, don’t assist him to achieve his goal. Be deliberate about creating good memories.
From courtship, we have committed to never using negative words on one another…never will you hear it from my mouth…it doesn’t matter how angry I am, I will never use bad words.
So as a single, make that decision now, write several ways that you will create good memories in your marriage…as engaged singles, commit to it now and married couples be very deliberate about it. Let the record of the good times make you smile each time you remember and bond you more.
Let me end with a story, so my wife wanted us to go spend sometime in a hotel and just relax. I was thinking how I can make it work and all…we were lying down gisting in our room but I looked at the funds available and it was like, we can’t do this now…just then a friend of ours called and said he felt impressed by God to check on us.
He was on his way to Abeokuta and he turned back to Sagamu to come visit us…he came around, prayed and when he was leaving, he just gave me an envelope…when I opened it later, it was an amount of money that can cover at least two nights in a good hotel….we were wowed by the thoughtfulness of God.
We didn’t even pray about it o…we were just thinking about it and God sent his servant to provide us the cash. Even God is interested in us creating good memories…commit to it as well.
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